Be aware!!! Research warns 3 behaviors of parents “drag down children’s IQ” by up to 20%, destroying their future without realizing it.
US research reveals 3 behaviors of parents that unknowingly “undermine” their children’s intelligence, IQ may drop by 15–20%
A 10-year long-term study by the Child Psychology Research Center in the United States, which followed the parenting behaviors of more than 2,000 families, came to the shocking conclusion that seemingly harmless parental behaviors can lower a child’s IQ by 15–20%! These are not big deals, but they are part of everyday life, and many parents are doing them without realizing it.
Here are 3 behaviors that experts warn will “destroy” your child’s intellectual development:
1. Yelling or using harsh words with your child.
Research by Professor Teicher’s team from Harvard University suggests that children who grow up in families where parents regularly yell or use harsh words have weaker connections in the brain between the language-receptive area (Wernicke’s area) and the prefrontal cortex. Which directly affects language comprehension and communication skills.
Also in 2011, researchers found that children who had been “verbally abused” had increased gray matter volume in the left temporal lobe of the brain. Which is involved in language, but this increase was a sign of a developmental disorder.
The direct impact is that children will have problems with understanding and communication, reduced memory, short attention spans, and stunted intellectual development. Leading to lower academic achievement in the long run.
The sad thing is that many parents say. “Why don’t you understand no matter how much I tell you?” and then use verbal abuse, not realizing that when children are being scolded, their brains are “shutting down” because they are immersed in fear, anxiety, and emotional instability. When this happens repeatedly. Children lose focus, respond slowly, lose confidence, and gradually believe the negative words that parents accidentally say, “stupid” or “useless.”
2. Repeatedly labeling and rejecting your child negatively
Sayings like , “You’re useless,” “You’re lazy as hell,” “You’re useless.” Even if spoken momentarily in a momentary mood, can have a deep effect on a child’s heart. Psychology calls this behavior a “self-fulfilling prophecy,” because when children are repeatedly labeled as “incompetent.” They will eventually begin to truly believe it and not dare to try, not dare to make mistakes, not dare to express themselves.
On China’s Zhihu website, a notable answer was posted when someone asked. “What will a child who is rejected from a young age be like when they grow up?” The answer was, “No matter what I do, I feel hopeless. Nothing I can really achieve.” This is because children who are criticized too harshly will gradually lose their courage, not daring to step out of their “comfort zone” and feel worthless, just as adults used to say.
3. Let your child indulge in “junk happiness”
Another behavior that silently destroys children’s development is letting them get addicted to “junk happiness” such as short videos, online games, or unlimited social media browsing. These things give children a sense of “instant happiness” that makes them easily addicted. However, in the long run, it makes the brain lazy to think, lacks concentration, has less self-control, and loses the spark to learn.
Especially during primary school, which is considered the “golden period” for training analytical thinking and learning habits, if children are allowed to spend too much time on these things, their ability to think deeply, do difficult things. And learn by themselves will gradually disappear.
So what should parents do? The most important thing is to “create a growth mindset” for your child to believe that “I can improve if I try”, not “I’m only good enough. It’s useless to try”.
Praise your child for their efforts, not just the สมัครสมาชิก UFABET วันนี้ รับเครดิตฟรีทุกวัน results. For example, instead of saying, “You got a perfect score of 10,” say, “You worked hard. I see your effort.” Or when your child can’t do something, don’t judge them immediately. But say, “We can’t do it yet, but we’ll find a new way.” Be patient and use words to guide instead of scolding. Because gentle, encouraging words help children’s brains “receive” learning the best.
Don’t wait until your child loses confidence or the fire to learn before you turn around and change. Your child’s intelligence does not depend solely on genetics. But is shaped every day by the eyes, words, and presence of their parents. Simply changing our behavior today is like opening a new door for your child’s future… because children are not stupid. They just need love and proper guidance from their parents.